Too soon we get old, and too late we get smart is the old Yiddish proverb! Generally, under-achievers get smart too late in their lives. By the time, when they are smart, they are also too old to be able to reap many benefits from life after being smart. Achievers seemed to understand this concept “Too Soon Old! Too Late Smart!” so well that they want to be smart first before they are too old to achieve anything or whatever goals they set in life.

Achievers understand that by making slow and steady contributions just to win the day they don’t have to rush later in life. They can then enjoy their fruits of labors while they are still young. They start their day early; investing everything they can afford to, and they know that the resources they invested in are working for them in the long term to bear fruits of successes for them.

Under-achievers fail to understand themselves well enough in their relations with their environments and interactions to be able to make very decisive choices to be smart. Their stubborn characteristic and fear of failing prevent them from being smart to learn from the processes. Instead of moving on and learning something from that encounter, they devoted their time and resources in doing things that they could never excel in and they will complain about life and grow old in the process.

Times flies! Achievers want to learn so fast and they want to become smart fast before they are too old, enjoying all their fruits of labors. They will make informed decisions and they are rational in abandoning activities that are not productive, not leveraging enough or they can never be good at from their in-depth understanding of themselves even if they have the perseverance to continue doing them. They understand themselves so well that they want to make very decisive judgments to succeed before they are too old.

More often, underachievers describe themselves as living a boring or conflicted coexistence that makes economic sense but lacking in excitement or emotional satisfaction. Much of their difficulty in developing & sustaining personal relationships resides in their failure to recognise, in themselves as well as in others, those personality characteristics that make them a poor candidate for a committed relationship.

Under-achievers often ask for medication. They are tired of their sad mood, fatigue, & loss of interest in things that previously gave them pleasure. They are having trouble sleeping or they sleep all the time; their appetites are absent or excessive. They are irritable & their memories are shot. Often they wish they were dead. They have trouble remembering what it is to be happy.

From my research into the behaviors of under-achievers, there are certain recurring themes in their stories: Others in their families have lived similarly discouraged lives. The relationships in which they now find themselves are either full of conflict or “low temperature,” with little passion or intimacy. Their days are routine: unsatisfying jobs, few friends, lots of boredom. They feel cut off from the pleasures enjoyed by others. They tend to devote great amounts of time & energy to efforts to assert control over what happens to them in their uncertain progress through life. They are taught to pursue an elusive form of security, primarily through the acquisition of material goods & the means to obtain them. There is a kind of track that they are put on early in life with the implicit suggestion that, if they ‘succeed,’ they will be happy.

Achievers will look at the way they are living with an eye to change. They will not be always talking about what they want, what they intent. Those are dreams and wishes, and are of little value in changing their mood. They are not what they think, or what they say, or how they feel. They are what they do. They educate themselves that not being in control is a popular illusion closely related to the pursuit of perfection. They have come to understand that such a world is impossible, sometimes they would even go to great lengths to achieve whatever control they can over those around them through the exercise of power or manipulation. Instead, they would learn to be smart and go on to do what they can achieve every single minutes of their time and achieve a lot more out of life as compared to most under-achievers.

Learning to be “Too Soon Smart! Too Late Old!” will take some form of paradigm change and education for the under-achievers before they can achieve some success in their lives!

Here are 30 true things under-achievers might need to know, re-educate and change themselves for more success in their lives.

1.If the map doesn’t agree with the ground, the map is wrong.
2.We are what we do.

3.It is difficult to remove by logic an idea not placed there by logic in the first place.

4.The statute of limitations has expired on most of our childhood traumas.

5.Any relationship is under the control of the person who cares the least.

6.Feelings follow behaviour.

7.Be bold, & mighty forces will come to your aid.

8.The perfect is the enemy of the good.

9.Life’s two most important questions are ‘why? & ‘why not? The trick is knowing which one to ask.

10.Our greatest strengths are our greatest weaknesses.

11.The most secure prisons are those we construct for ourselves.

12.The problems of the elderly are frequently serious but seldom interesting.

13.Happiness is the ultimate risk.

14.True love is the apple of Eden.

15.Only bad things happen quickly.

16.Not all who wander are lost.

17.Unrequited love is painful but not romantic.

18.There is nothing more pointless, or common, than doing the same things & expecting different results.

19.We flee from the truth in vain.

20.It’s a poor idea to lie to oneself.

21.We are all prone to the myth of the perfect stranger.

22.Love is never lost, not even in death.

23.Nobody likes to be told what to do.

24.The major advantage of illness is that it provides relief from responsibility.

25.We are afraid of the wrong things.

26.Parents have a limited ability to shape children’s behaviour, except for the worst.

27.The only real paradises are those we have lost.

28.Of all the forms of courage, the ability to laugh is the most profoundly therapeutic.

29.Mental health requires freedom of choice.

30.Forgiveness is a form of letting go, but they are not the same thing.

By Sean Toh

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